{"id":11413,"date":"2020-11-10T10:00:50","date_gmt":"2020-11-10T07:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/?p=11413"},"modified":"2022-12-05T02:11:08","modified_gmt":"2022-12-04T23:11:08","slug":"basarilisiniz-ama-degilsiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/blog\/2020\/11\/10\/basarilisiniz-ama-degilsiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z Ama De\u011filsiniz!"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"blob:https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/b7ffa267-3a7b-41db-bf33-a622a91eb7b8\" alt=\"hamburger.svg\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla oldu galiba\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Tek seferli\u011fine denk geldi\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018\u015eansl\u0131yd\u0131m o y\u00fczden\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Hayatta bir \u015fey satamam\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z ama inanm\u0131yor ve yukardaki c\u00fcmleleri kuruyorsunuz\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Asl\u0131nda toplumun %70 i ve \u00e7o\u011funlukla kad\u0131nlar farkl\u0131 konularda bu durumu ya\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Peki, nedir bu durum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Imposter Sendromu\u2019 di\u011fer ad\u0131yla \u2018Sahtekar Sendromu\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u00e7\u0131k tan\u0131m\u0131 ise, Ki\u015filerin bulunduklar\u0131 yere e\u011fitimleriyle, ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131yla, ak\u0131l ve bilgileriyle de\u011fil \u015fans eseri geldi\u011fini, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla geldi\u011fi yeri hak etmedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesi ve bir g\u00fcn bu durumun ortaya \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131 kayg\u0131s\u0131 ya\u015famalar\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130lk defa 1970\u2019lerde psikolog Suzanne Imes ve Pauline Rose Clance taraf\u0131ndan kad\u0131nlara \u00f6zel olarak tan\u0131mlanm\u0131\u015f bu sendromun sonras\u0131nda erkeklerde de var oldu\u011fu g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcyor. Amerikal\u0131 iki sosyolog Jessica Collet ve Jade Avelis, \u2018Neden bir\u00e7ok kad\u0131n akademisyenin y\u00fcksek stat\u00fclerden daha az h\u0131rs gerektiren pozisyonlara kayd\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131\u2019 ara\u015ft\u0131rmak istiyor. 460 doktora \u00f6\u011frencisini inceliyorlar ve sebep olarak Imposter Sendromu&#8217;yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131yor. Daha sonras\u0131nda yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar toplumda her kesimde bir \u015fekilde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kabilece\u011fini g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mesela, John Steinceck g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne &#8216;Ben yazar filan de\u011filim. Kendimi de insanlar\u0131 da kand\u0131r\u0131p duruyorum&#8217; diye yazm\u0131\u015f. Einstein \u201cYapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u015fe atfedilen abart\u0131l\u0131 itibar beni hasta ediyor, kendimi \u00fc\u00e7 ka\u011f\u0131t\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n teki olarak g\u00f6rmekten al\u0131koyam\u0131yorum\u201d demi\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nereden Kaynaklan\u0131yor ?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kendinizin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmas\u0131na inanmaman\u0131z\u0131n bir \u00e7ok sebebi var. En \u00f6nemli 3 sebep ise \u015f\u00f6yle,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1- Sosyal Kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rma<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sosyal medyan\u0131n da s\u00fcrekli etkisiyle g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 ki\u015filerin gerisinde oldu\u011funuza veya mevcut halinizle onlar gibi ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za o kadar inan\u0131yorsunuz ki, ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u2018 Yok can\u0131m olamaz!\u2019 diye direnen taraf\u0131n\u0131z ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2- \u00d6nyarg\u0131lar<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hepimizin beyni kendini koruma duygusu ile negatif konular\u0131 a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131kl\u0131 olarak fark eder ve \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki negatif anlar\u0131 ve \u00e7evrenizdekilerin ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 daha \u00e7ok hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Bu duygular sizi esir al\u0131nca iyi \u015feylerin olmayaca\u011f\u0131 \u00f6nyarg\u0131s\u0131 \u2018Olduysa \u015fanst\u0131r\u2019 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesine g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3- M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018M\u00fckemmellik\u2019 asla ula\u015f\u0131lamayacak bir nokta olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen toplumda sanki varm\u0131\u015f gibi empoze edilen bir durum. S\u00fcrekli ula\u015f\u0131lamayacak o m\u00fckemmel noktay\u0131 hedefliyorsan\u0131z, ne kadar ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olursan\u0131z olun, m\u00fckemmele g\u00f6re hep ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z hissedeceksiniz. B\u00f6yle bir durumda ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z hat\u0131rlat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, abart\u0131lm\u0131\u015f veya ger\u00e7ek olmayan \u00f6vg\u00fcler olarak kabul edeceksiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u00e7 diyalo\u011funuzu susturup \u0130mposter Sendromunu nas\u0131l a\u015fars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S\u00fcrekli kendinizden \u015f\u00fcphe etti\u011finiz bir durum elbette \u00e7ok zor. Bu durumu a\u015fmak i\u00e7in 3 yakla\u015f\u0131m tarz\u0131 i\u015finize yarayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1- Hareket ge\u00e7mek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u015eansa inanan, \u015fans\u0131 bekler. Harekete ge\u00e7mez. Her ne olursa olsun karar ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda harekete ge\u00e7mek bolca sonu\u00e7 \u00fcretmenizi sa\u011flar. Sonu\u00e7 \u00fcrettik\u00e7e ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 daha \u00e7ok fark edersiniz b\u00f6ylece yeni inan\u00e7lar olu\u015fturmaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z. Bu durum zihninize g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc kan\u0131tlar verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2- Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 3 farkl\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131dan de\u011ferlendirmek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; O i\u015fte uzman ki\u015filer sizi nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendiriyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; Yap\u0131lan i\u015ften etkilenenler sizi nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendiriyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; Siz ne hissediyorsunuz ve kendinizi nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendiriyorsunuz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u00fcm bunlar farkl\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131lardan bakarak sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131dan yakla\u015fman\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3- Ge\u00e7mi\u015f ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 yazmak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do\u011fumunuzdan bu zamana kadar, en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 bile yazarak fark etmek. \u2018Bu kadar \u015fans biraz fazla, demek ki bir \u015feyler yapabiliyorum\u2019 diyebilmek i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli bir ad\u0131m. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fte pozitif yap\u0131lanlar\u0131 beyne s\u0131k s\u0131k hat\u0131rlatmak \u00f6z g\u00fcveninizi g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc tutar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131mda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m kad\u0131nlar ve g\u00f6zlemlerime g\u00f6re Deli gibi ba\u015farma iste\u011fi olup da, ba\u015far\u0131lar elde etti\u011fi halde bunu g\u00f6remeyen ve sahiplenemeyen kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7ekti\u011fi ac\u0131 en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc. \u00c7at\u0131\u015fan taraflar\u0131 onlar\u0131 daha da zora sokuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu sebeple, t\u00fcm bunlarla yol alam\u0131yorsan\u0131z o zaman uzman biri ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek faydal\u0131 olabilir. Zira \u00e7ok derin nedenleri varsa onlar \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeden yol almak pek de m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Son bir \u015fey de,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hayatta \u2018\u015eans\u2019 diye bir \u015fey yoktur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u015eans\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kendiniz olu\u015fturursunuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"blob:https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/eb3bb3a9-48d5-41e7-8915-a165743af8d2\" alt=\"chev-down-white.svg\"\/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2018Yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla oldu galiba\u2019 \u2018Tek seferli\u011fine denk geldi\u2019 \u2018\u015eansl\u0131yd\u0131m o y\u00fczden\u2019 \u2018Hayatta bir \u015fey satamam\u2019 Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z ama inanm\u0131yor ve yukardaki c\u00fcmleleri kuruyorsunuz\u2026 Asl\u0131nda toplumun %70 i ve \u00e7o\u011funlukla kad\u0131nlar farkl\u0131 konularda bu durumu ya\u015f\u0131yor. 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