{"id":12208,"date":"2023-04-17T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-04-17T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/?p=12208"},"modified":"2023-04-18T09:30:27","modified_gmt":"2023-04-18T06:30:27","slug":"bizi-basaridan-nasil-uzak-tutmaya-calisirlar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/blog\/2023\/04\/17\/bizi-basaridan-nasil-uzak-tutmaya-calisirlar\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba\u015far\u0131dan Sizi Nas\u0131l Uzak Tutarlar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken, yolunuza \u00e7\u0131kma ihtiyac\u0131 hisseden insanlar olacakt\u0131r. Birka\u00e7\u0131 asl\u0131nda size yard\u0131m etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131na inan\u0131yor olabilir, ama de\u011filler. Oldu\u011fun gibi kalman\u0131 istiyorlar. B\u00f6ylece kendilerini geli\u015ftirmeme konusunda da rahat edebilirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadece birka\u00e7 ki\u015finin sizin yan\u0131n\u0131zda olmas\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc, ancak ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak istiyorsan\u0131z bu y\u00f6netilmesi gereken bir \u015fey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l engelleyebilece\u011fini fark edin;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.Ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131za i\u015faret ederler. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hepimiz ge\u00e7mi\u015fte bir\u00e7ok kez ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olduk. Hayat\u0131n\u0131zdaki baz\u0131 insanlar, \u00e7abalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 sabote etmek i\u00e7in hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz bu ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131 g\u00fcndeme getireceklerdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir dergide k\u00f6\u015fe yaz\u0131s\u0131 yazmaya karar verdi\u011finizi varsayal\u0131m.\u00a0 Lisede edebiyat dersinde nas\u0131l k\u00f6t\u00fc oldu\u011funuzu, 2 sat\u0131r c\u00fcmleyi bile illa yanl\u0131\u015fs\u0131z yazamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rlatan bir “arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z” olabilir. Daha makul bir hedef bulman\u0131z\u0131 bile \u00f6nerebilirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Sizi su\u00e7lu hissettirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Su\u00e7luluk ba\u015fka bir silaht\u0131r. Dergide yazmak, i\u00e7erik olu\u015fturmak, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr olmak konusunda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ihmal edece\u011finize vurgu yaparak engel olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Dikkatinizi da\u011f\u0131tmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Hey, yazmay\u0131 b\u0131rak bunun yerine hep birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fck bir tatile gidelim.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bunlar, \u00e7evrenizdekilerin \u00e7abalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 sabote etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilecekleri daha az dolamba\u00e7l\u0131 yollardan sadece birka\u00e7\u0131. Ama neden ilk etapta bunu yaps\u0131nlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Size yak\u0131n olan ki\u015filerin \u00e7abalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 sabote etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n birka\u00e7 nedeni vard\u0131r:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. S\u0131radanl\u0131klar\u0131 ile rahat kalmak isterler. G\u00fczel bir \u015fey yaparsan\u0131z, yapmad\u0131klar\u0131 ger\u00e7e\u011fiyle u\u011fra\u015fmak zorunda kal\u0131rlar. Kimse hayat oyununu kaybediyormu\u015f gibi hissetmek istemez. Kendi korkular\u0131, g\u00fcvensizlikleri ve tembellikleri ile u\u011fra\u015fmak yerine, sizi geride tutmak daha kolay ve daha az i\u015ftir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Harika bir \u015fey ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, m\u00fc\u015fterilerinizin artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 veya 5 kilo verdi\u011finizi g\u00f6rmekten ger\u00e7ekten mutlu olan baz\u0131 insanlar olsa da, k\u0131skanan daha da fazlas\u0131 var. Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olman\u0131z\u0131 engellemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaklar. Ve bu i\u015fe yaramazsa, ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n de\u011ferini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u00d6rne\u011fin, “Ah, benim de bo\u015f vaktim olsayd\u0131, ben de kolayca i\u00e7erik yazard\u0131m.”<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    3. \u0130nsanlar de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi sevmez. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Herkes sizden bir \u015feyler al\u0131r. Sizinle olan ili\u015fkilerinden hi\u00e7bir \u015fey alamasalar, sizinle hi\u00e7 ili\u015fki kurmazlard\u0131. De\u011fi\u015firseniz stat\u00fckoyu tehdit edersiniz. Farkl\u0131 bir \u015fey olursan\u0131z, bu onlar\u0131 nerede b\u0131rak\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Siz ayn\u0131 kal\u0131rsan\u0131z bu onlar i\u00e7in psikolojik olarak daha kolayd\u0131r<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n itirazlar\u0131na ra\u011fmen ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmaya azimli olmakt\u0131r. En k\u00f6t\u00fc su\u00e7lular\u0131 hayat\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz. Kendi arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z ve aileniz onu daha da zorla\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan hayat yeterince zor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Do\u011fru nedenle hedeflerinize ba\u011fl\u0131 kal\u0131n. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 etkilemek, bir \u015fey yapmak i\u00e7in anlams\u0131z bir nedendir. Kendiniz i\u00e7in yap\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    B\u00fcy\u00fck hedeflerinizi kendinize saklamay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan daha az diren\u00e7 g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz. Hayat\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in en iyi olan\u0131 se\u00e7in ve yap\u0131n! Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n onay\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z yok. Bu ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 dinlemeyin demek de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen iyi niyetli ve yap\u0131c\u0131 ele\u015ftiriler de olabilir. Ne istedi\u011finizi net bilirseniz, neyi al\u0131p neyi b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 da iyi se\u00e7ersiniz.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken, yolunuza \u00e7\u0131kma ihtiyac\u0131 hisseden insanlar olacakt\u0131r. Birka\u00e7\u0131 asl\u0131nda size yard\u0131m etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131na inan\u0131yor olabilir, ama de\u011filler. Oldu\u011fun gibi kalman\u0131 istiyorlar. B\u00f6ylece kendilerini geli\u015ftirmeme konusunda da rahat edebilirler. Sadece birka\u00e7 ki\u015finin sizin yan\u0131n\u0131zda olmas\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc, ancak ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak istiyorsan\u0131z bu y\u00f6netilmesi gereken bir \u015fey. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l engelleyebilece\u011fini fark edin; 1.Ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131za i\u015faret ederler.  Hepimiz ge\u00e7mi\u015fte bir\u00e7ok kez…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11916,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12208","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12208","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12208"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12208\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12255,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12208\/revisions\/12255"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11916"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12208"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12208"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.esradoyuk.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12208"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}